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This article about integrity by Tammy Salzman hits home for me. I was always the one to help everyone even if it didnt help me. Some people said it was radiculous, for me I just cant help but help others, it makes me feel good inside. In the end Karma always balances out life.

By Tammy Saltzman:
"If you have intergrity, nothing else matters. If you don't have integrity, nothing else matters." - Alan Simpson Tip 76 asks the question: "Who Are You?" This is a great follow up after last week's question "Where Have You Been?" So I ask all of you, "Who Are You?" I really love this anonymous quote, "Character is what you are in the dark." I have often said that "Character is who is looking back at you when you look in the mirror." Character is also the legacy that you leave to your children. It is who you are 20 or 30 years from now when someone meets one of your children and the person says, Wow, I knew your mother when..., What they say and how they view you is the character of what you have left behind. Every single decision, every single choice, and every single business dealing reflects upon who we are and how we are perceived by others. How do you want to be perceived? Salman Rushdie once said, "Our lives teach us who we are." Our character is built with every experience and every issue that comes our way. After closing my title company a friend came to me about a closing my office handled that was missing doc stamps and now the county was calling her to collect. The bill was $2400 and I took that money out of my personal checking account to make sure she had nothing to worry about and I had nothing out there that could potentially tarnish my good reputation. The damage she could have caused me had I not done the right thing was not worth the money out of pocket. When my title company first opened I was offered all kinds of title work if I passed cash under the table. Tempting yes, but, NO THANKS. I really don't need my children to come visit me in prison.That is not the legacy I want to leave to my children. Many years ago when I was just starting out in law I had my first commercial contract. I called another lawyer that I knew to ask for some guidance and was told to figure it out for myself. Pretty nasty and still 12 years later I am still talking about and never once sent her a referral. That lesson taught me to always share my wealth (knowledge, referrals, forms, employees, advice) with others, there IS enough to go around, and always always always help and mentor those just starting out. Lessons in character appear every single day in many different ways. What do you want others to say about you 12 years later.
So who are you? Are you someone who is there to help a friend out that is in need? My dear friend Laura told me to call George at South County when I was having trouble getting all my observations for Family Law Mediation Certification. She said, "tell him you are my friend." I did just as she suggested and got right in. That is what good friends are all about. Another friend named Laura just lost her job. She works in the event planning industry. She is looking for something in hospitality or corporate event planning. I am attaching her resume because that is the kind of friend I am. When it comes to friends there are sometimes challenges and when you truly believe in someone nothing and I do mean nothing can sway me. I am a very loyal friend and a friend for life. My dear friend Marni just opened a virtual paralegal service, anyone out there that can use her expert services please call her at 561-716-1111 or go to Friends are there for each other. They help each other out, give each other advice and listen to the same story over and over again just because. Remember, "To have good friends you must be a good friend." Who are you in the office? Are you an employee that just gets by hoping not to be found out. Are you someone who takes home office supplies or makes personal calls on company time? Trust me when I tell you, you are not fooling anyone but yourself. Successful people - the ones who climb to the top - they don't hide out and they go above and beyond their duties to impress anyone and everyone to climb the ladder of success. Let's hope they work for the right employers. What kind of boss are you? Do you do the right thing? Take care of your employees? Make them feel needed and appreciated? A true sign of a good employer is when the employees who leave still say great things about you. They are crying on their way out because they loved working for you. They actually do keep in touch. Only you can answer these questions. Remember this quote by Theodore Roosevelt, "Character, in the long run, is the decisive factor in the life of an individual and of nations alike." My life has not been easy the last 2 years, but I have not broken. I just keep going because that is who I am. Character is what defines you when the chips are really down and life is not going your way. Friedrich Nietzche said it best, "What someone is, begins to be revealed when his talent abates, when he stops showing us what he can do." Just this week on the news I saw a homeless mother and her child looking for shelter in the Florida cold snap. My heart broke to think she is out there with no place to sleep. Here I have this big house with empty beds and it just doesn't seem right. I called my friend Cindy who works with her church to help foster small families when they become homeless. Please send me a single mom. I need to help - I need to do the right thing. Next week I will be meeting with the church officials and hopefully soon I can reach out to a single mom in need. That is the kind of person that I am and the kind of person that I want to teach my son to be. This is my legacy. "The best index to a person's character is (a) how he treats people who can't do him any good, and (b) how he treats people who can' fight back." - Abigail van Buren (Dear Abby) Wishing you all that you wish forů,
Tammy Saltzman
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