This article by Tammy Sltzman shoud hit hme for may of us. Do we let others hold us back? Perhaps we do as our own self defeating proficy? The choice is ours to make. Dr Cliff Fruithandler DC
“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great." - Mark Twain
Tip 67 is on Avoiding Naysayers. Naysayers are everywhere. Sometimes they are in your home, they show up at work, they hide among your friends and they are usually in your family. Naysayers are sometimes just negative people who never have anything good to say. Sometimes naysayers are people who are jealous and envious of your ideas and ambition. Often naysayers are those who think they are being the devil's advocate or just helping you to be cautious. They come in all sizes and all shapes. It is our job to notice it for what it is and move on. I personally try to avoid all negativity and stay focused on the positive. I am committed to my dreams and will not allow anyone to come between me and my ability to reach those dreams. I love this quote by Buddha, "Be vigilant; guard your mind against negative thoughts. " Every single negative thought has an opposing positive thought. Why waste time dwelling on the negative when you can spend more time on the positive.
It all starts with a dream. If you are smart the dream becomes a goal with a plan. As you formulate your plan in your mind you start to share your ideas and thoughts with those around you. Many people you know will be supportive and encourage you to reach for the stars and follows your dreams. Those people believe in you and they believe in your ideas and they believe in your ability to make it happen just as you envision. Then there are others who are just so negative. Sometimes they take the form of your attorney - cautioning you again the pitfalls and obstacles that could come in your path. These are good cautions to think about, contemplate, and plan for. Then there are the others who are just negative to be negative. Hendrie Weisinger once said, "People who project negativity typically have low self-esteem. They feel badly about themselves, and their negativity is simply a reflection of those feelings." I have found that most negative people have never achieved their own dreams so they don't believe it is possible for you to reach yours. Regardless, take everything you hear with a grain of salt and remember it is just "their" opinion.
Don't give up on your dreams. No matter what!!! Ben Stein points out, "So many fail because they don't get started - they don't go. They don't overcome inertia. They don't begin." I think the main reason for this is because we start to talk about our dreams and our plans and then we get so much negative feedback from those around us that we just give up and abandon our dreams. We allow others to discourage us and let's face it, it is much easier to just give up. After all, it takes a lot to reach our dreams. Here are two great quotes; the first from Lou Holtz, "Show me someone who has done something worthwhile, and I'll show you some who has overcome adversity," and the other from Albert Schweitzer, "One who gains strength by overcoming obstacles possesses the only strength which can overcome adversity." Remember, if it was easy everyone one do it.
There are no overnight successes. Everyone who has reached success has worked very hard for it. They have tried and failed and tried again. They have taken risks where they sometimes win and sometimes lose. I love this quote that Adam used to use all the time, "It is not how hard you fall, but how quickly you get up." I think the most important thing is learning from your mistakes and not repeating them over and over again. Here is a great quote by Booker T. Washington, "Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome." So when we fail or when we are confronted by obstacles remember this quote by the famous Shirley MacLaine, "Dwelling on the negative just contributes to its power."
So in order to succeed you must surround yourself with positive people who will encourage you to reach for the stars. Make sure they can help you to brainstorm and mastermind solutions to your problems and help you to create new paths for success. Positive people will see your vision and believe in your ability to reach your dreams. This is not a dress rehearsal. Don't be mad if someone you love is always negative. My mom was the most negative person I knew. I still loved her anyway and I forgave her for not being there the way I needed her to be. I also felt empathy for her, since she had to live with that negativity. Her life experiences were so negative that she never reached her own dreams. I have learned a great lesson from George Foreman when he said, "That's my gift. I let negativity roll off me like water off a duck's back. If it's not positive, I didn't hear it. If you can overcome that, fights are easy." If you try hard enough and surround yourself with positive people who believe in you success will surely follow.
“There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative." - W. Clement Stone
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